Can Stress Be Helpful?

Stress is a part of daily life. We experience stress in our families, at our jobs, or in our neighborhoods. Our children experience stress every day, too, figuring out schoolwork, interacting with friends, schoolmates, teachers and family, and learning new skills.

THE GOOD Some of the stress we experience is necessary, and even helpful! New challenges create stress, but often our response to that stress is to rise to the occasion. Consider your 4th grader. Each day your child meets new challenges that make him or her more able to handle what life demands. What challenges are you rising to today? Give yourself credit for a job well done.

THE BAD Although stressful situations offer the opportunity to build skills and wisdom, stress can become toxic. Unresolved or unmanaged stress can lead to emotional, physical, and even behavioral problems that make life unpleasant and difficult. Is stress causing you, or your child, to experience too much sadness or fear? Frequent stomachaches, headaches, or tension? Interfering with your ability to sleep or stay focused? If so, look for healthy and fun ways to take a break from stress. You may also wish to consult with a medical professional for advice. Visit www.stresshappens.org for a list of resources.

THE POSSIBLE Difficulties can help us learn new ways to cope with what life dishes out. Stress gives us and our kids the chance to conquer new challenges, and to become stronger or wiser for the experience. Stress can also inspire us to set new priorities, and to reach out to friends and loved ones for support, wisdom and comfort.